4. LOVE, LOVE AND THE GIFTS, AND HOME LIFE. 1Cor.13.

We need both love and the gifts of the Holy Spirit in our marriages, and God delights to develop them in us.

The placing of 1Cor.13. between two chapters on spiritual gifts shows that Paul is particularly considering love in relation to spiritual gifts, however, this chapter can apply to every part of our lives and to our marriage relationships as well. The "more excellent way," is a "more surpassing way," than just coveting spiritual gifts. It is not love severed or separate and distinct from all other gifts, graces, attributes, talents and relationships; it is love as the motivating force and guiding principle of all these desirable and lovely things. It is certainly not, as some would have us think, love in opposition to the gifts of the Spirit.

The position of this chapter is an embarrassment to many Christian expositors; on either side of it are experiences of which they know little or nothing, and it is always difficult to write of an experience that is foreign to you. Many expositors take this chapter right out of its context and speak of love quite separately from spiritual gifts. However, in 1Cor.14v1., Paul clearly tells us why he wrote this chapter on love; he writes, "follow after love and desire spiritual gifts." Paul places this discourse on love in the middle of his instruction on spiritual gifts, to emphasise both the need that love has of spiritual gifts, and the need for love in the manifestation of spiritual gifts. Without God's power, love cannot meet the needs of the Church or world, and without love, power from God can be terribly misused, as Satan abundantly demonstrates. Love is very often powerless without the Holy Spirit's gifts, but even His lovely gifts can be profitless without love. With love the manifestation of the gifts of the Holy Spirit in our homes is precious, profitable, and be positively critical to victory and happiness in our lives. God desires to deliver us from temptation and evil, and to bless and help us, and His gifts are manifested in our homes to this end.

God knew that Satan would attack the powerhouse of the Church; and knew that it was in the area of spiritual gifts and love that the Church would fail most; and so through the apostle Paul He gives some direction and advice on these great subjects. The oil of love is never needed anywhere more than in the power-house of the Church. The Bible COMMANDS us to seek after both love and spiritual gifts. If we really desire and follow after love, we shall desire, encourage, and love spiritual gifts. Those who are seeking love from the God of love, will also seek His gifts of love. "Charismata." There is a wonderful healing power and exceedingly precious fellowship in mature Christian love. When a person comes into the fellowship of Christians who have this beautiful love and affection for one another they can experience a wonderful healing balm and comfort, and if those Christians have all the gifts of the Spirit in operation, they can experience God's delivering power and love through them. God pours out an absolutely wonderful blessing upon churches where Christians really love one another. However, a church or home, which lacks love, and is filled with strife and bitterness, is a very unhappy place. Ps.133v1-3. Gal.5v14,15.

Paul exhorts us to manifest "agape" love.
The New Testament Scriptures use "agape" to describe the love of God and Christian love, and it is the word that is used to describe the love that a man must have for his wife in Eph.5v25. and Col.3v19.. It is the love that God demands for Himself and our neighbour. Mt.5v43,44. 22v37,39. It is the love of the new commandment that Christ gave. Jn.13v34,35. 15v12. It is the love that the abounding iniquity of these last days will cause to grow cold in the careless Christian's heart. Mt.24v12. This is the love of God that is shed abroad in our hearts after endurance in tribulation. Rom.5v5. It is the love of God from which nothing can separate us. Rom.8v39. It is the love that caused God to send His Son to die for us. Jn.3v16. It is the love that is the fruit of the Spirit. Gal.5v22. "Agape" love is a matter of the heart as well as a benevolent and loving mind. "Agape" love is not just intellectual, it is a warm and fervent love, "see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently. " 1Pet.1v22. Hos.11v8. Lk.19v41-44. "Agape" love, then, is not only an emotion, it is a standard of life, a warm and righteous attitude of mind, it is God's divine principles and compassion manifested to us, through us, and in us, it will totally transform our marriage relationships if we manifest it in our lives and homes.

"Agape" love is usually distinct from "phileo" love, the love of emotion and friendship, which could vary a great deal in intensity and sincerity. "Phileo" love is used at its lowest level to speak of the base love of the Scribes and Pharisees for prestige and position, and of Judas's kiss of betrayal. Mt.23v6. 26v48. In sharp contrast, "phileo" love is also used in the Scriptures to speak of the highest levels of divine love and affection, and is raised to a level of tenderness and beauty quite unknown to the Greeks. Jn.5v20. 11v3,36. 16v27. 20v2. Christ's "phileo" love for the Laodiceans, would be quite incomprehensible to the worldling Greek. Rev.3v19. A good example of the general difference between "agape" love and "phileo" love is found in Jn.21v15-19.. The Lord Jesus twice asks Peter if he still lays claim to the constant, unfailing, benevolent "agape" love. Peter can only answer that bitter experience has taught him that his love is only the fervent, tender, but weak "phileo" love. When the Lord Jesus asks Peter if he loves Him with a "phileo" love, it breaks Peter, he said in effect, "You know my heart Lord, and my "phileo" love for you, and you know how broken I am because my warm but weak love has failed you." The Lord Jesus comforts His distraught apostle with the disclosure that his life would end in a magnificent display of "agape" love; Peter would lay down his life for his Saviour and His sheep, and until that occurs he is to follow Him and feed His sheep and lambs. Oh, the wonderful "agape" love of Jesus for us, He accepts our "phileo" love and transforms it by His grace. 1Cor.16v22. "Phileo."

The world needs the "agape" love of Jesus, worldly "phileo" love and "Eros" love can never satisfy the soul, or transform it into something beautiful, only divine "agape" love, can do that. When the world sees Christians united by divine "agape" love in our homes as well as our churches, then, and only then, will it believe that Christ has the answer to their need. Jn.17v21.

1. EVERY MINISTRY IS PROFITLESS TO US IF WE DO NOT POSSESS LOVE.
1Cor.13v1-3.

a. We can have spiritual gifts, but without love our souls are empty.

We can speak the most beautiful tongues and yet have an empty soul.
The Holy Spirit can enable us to pray and praise with the most wonderful languages and with the most exalted words, but if they are not manifested in love, we will not receive or impart any real or lasting blessing either to ourselves or others. Without love, speaking in tongues is empty unblessed noise, "roaring brass and clashing cymbal;" with love it opens the very gates of heaven.

We can have the gift of prophecy and yet be nothing.
We can utter precious divine truth and predictive prophecy and yet be, not merely a nobody, "outheis;" but "nothing," "outhen," at absolute zero spiritually. Mighty inspiration without love still leaves us a complete failure. It is a tragedy when the gift that is designed to edify the Church, fails to edify the possessor of the gift, when love is lacking. With love, prophecy conveys the comfort and strengthening love of God into the Church. Even the gifts of the Spirit do not profit us if we do not possess love.

We can have the gifts of power and demonstration and yet be nothing.
Signs and wonders can be a sign of the approval of God, Acts.2v22., and can bring tremendous blessing to needy people, however we can manifest these gifts and yet be a complete failure in God's eyes, if we do not love people.

b. We can have a profound Scriptural and spiritual knowledge and yet be nothing.
Paul tells us that it is possible to know "all mysteries," "musteria," that is, God's secret purposes and plans, and "all knowledge," and yet be devoid of love to people. We can have a mind full of divine truth and yet have an empty soul. Satan is the perfect example of this. Ezek.28v12-20. Is.14v12,13. Rev.12v10-12. Knowledge without love produces pride and arrogance, and a contempt for people of less ability, privilege and gift. Compare Jn.8v3. with Lk.6v20. Divine truth can deliver the soul, feed the mind and spirit, and establish and sanctify the Christian; it is absolutely vital; but we need love to make it profitable to us.

c. We can give most sacrificially but without love it does not profit us.
Our most sacrificial giving is profitless to us unless love is our motive for giving. We can give away all our earthly treasure, and yet not lay up any treasure in heaven. We can give away all that we have, like the widow of Lk.21v1-3., and yet, unlike her, it will profit us nothing, because we have no real love for God or people. Mt.6v1-4. Mk.12v41-44. 2Cor.8v1. to 9v15. Gal.6v2,5-10. Acts.2v44,45. 1Tim.5v16. Christian giving in love is wonderful, it blesses the giver more than the recipient of the gift.

d. We can even die a martyr's death, but without love it profits us nothing.
Our Lord, Himself a martyr, told us not to court persecution or death. Mt.10v23. The needless sacrifice of our life out of a sense of bravado or pride, will bring us no eternal reward. It is only unavoidable martyrdom out of love for Christ, and in the will of God, and the path of duty, that brings a heavenly reward. It is not only spiritual gifts that do us no good, or bring us no reward, if we are lacking in "agape" love; a profound spiritual knowledge, sacrificial giving, and a martyr's death do not benefit us either.

2. THE ATTRIBUTES OF LOVE.
1Cor.13v4-7.

1. Love suffers long, love is patient. "Makrothumeo," literally, "long passion."

Paul uses "makrothumei," the present active indicative of "makrothumeo," to emphasise the continual habit of controlling the mind and passions for a long time. Paul showed this patience in speaking as he did to the unruly Corinthian Christians. "Makrothumeo," occurs in the New Testament in the following places. Rom.2v4. 9v22. 2Cor.6v6. Gal.5v22. Eph.4v2. Col.1v11. 3v12. 1Tim.1v16. 2Tim.3v10. 4v2. Heb.6v12. Jam.es.5v10. 1Pet.3v20. 2Pet.3v15. It speaks of divine patience, as well as patience with people and with circumstances. It signifies the very opposite of the attitude of the worldling, who look upon short patience, retaliation, spite and vengeance as virtues. With the Greeks "megalopsuchia," was a virtue; it was the desire for vengeance, and the refusal to tolerate and accept any injury. These attitudes should have no place in God's family; God has been very longsuffering with us; let us imitate our longsuffering Lord, and show patience with others.

2. Love is Kind. "Chresteuetai."
"Chresteuetai," is the present middle of "chresteuomai," to be gentle, benign, and kind in behaviour and service to others; from "chrestos," useful, kind, gracious, gentle (like Christ's yoke in Mt.11v30.). Origen says it means, "Sweet to all ." Though "chrestos" occurs elsewhere, (Mt.11v30. Lk.5v39. 6v35. Rom.2v4. 1Cor.15v33. Eph.4v32. 1Pet.2v3.), "chresteuomai" only appears here in the New Testament, it speaks of a gracious, kind and gentle behaviour. Love not only suffers long with people who are a trial to its patience, it is kind to them and does them good in a positive manner. The present tense again shows the continuous nature and habit of this constructive kindness.

3. Love is not envious. "Ou zeloi."
"Zeloi" is the present active indicative of "zeloo," from "zeo," to boil. Paul here warns us that love does not boil with envy or jealousy. The present tense shows the permanent lack of envy and jealousy in the soul of the Christian who is motivated by "agape" love. The noun "zelos" is used in a good sense of the noble aspiration, and godly zeal and ardour of our Lord in Jn.2v17.. The verb "zeloo" is also used in a good sense in 1Cor.12v31., where Paul exhorts us to covet spiritual gifts, but he does not want us to manifest the envious begrudging spirit that is part and parcel of worldly covetousness. Love recognises the various ministries of Christ's Church, it is not jealous of what God gives to others. 1Cor.12v4-6. Rom.12v4. Gal.5v19-21. Acts.13v44,45. Love never boils with jealousy.

4. Love does not vaunt itself, it does not brag, or display itself.
"Vaunteth not itself," is "ou perpereuetai," the present middle of "perpereuomai," to brag, to boast ostentatiously; from "perperos," braggart." Paul is speaking of a loud talking, presumptuous, ostentatious, arrogant braggart. Paul said, "What hast thou that thou hast not received." 1Cor.4v7. Every good gift, ability, achievement, spiritual blessing, and conquest; arises from God, and "agape" love, humbly and contritely recognises this. The present tense shows that "agape" love always refuses to brag and boast. This vaunting pride destroyed Lucifer, the light bringer, and turned him into Satan, the prince of darkness; pride will also destroy us if we allow it into our beings. Is.14v12-20. Ezek.28v12-20. This vaunting spirit is the spirit of the powers of darkness. Acts.8v9. It has no place among the children of God. If God gives us peacock's feathers, let us humbly give God all the glory. Love is never anxious to impress others with its gifts and achievements.

5. Love is not puffed up. "Ou phusioutai."
"Phusioutai," is the present middle indicative of "phusioo," to puff oneself up like a pair of bellows. It is only used by Paul in the New Testament, in 1Cor.4v6,18,19. 5v2. 8v1. 13v4. and Col.2v18., the Corinthians suffered a great deal from this spiritual disease, from the number of times that Paul mentions it. Our dear Lord Jesus is "meek and lowly in heart," He knows the proud afar off, but dwells with the contrite in heart. Mt.11v29. Ps.138v6. Is.66v2. Love is not conceited, or blown up, like a pair of bellows, with a sense of its own importance. This is the inward cause of the previous outward manifestation. The greater our "puffage" is, the greater our spiritual "shrinkage" will be, and the more certain it will be that the Lord will deflate us. The present tense shows that a truly loving Christian always refuses to have conceited and inflated ideas about themselves, or get puffed up about their successes, achievements, or spirituality.

6. Love does not behave itself rudely, unbecomingly. or disgracefully.
Love never behaves indecently, or unbecomingly. "Aschemonei," is the present active indicative of "askemoneo," to behave in an unbecoming, indecent, or shameful manner, that is open to censure. It is only used in 1Cor.13v5 and 1Cor.7v36., where it speaks of a virgin being shamefully hindered from marriage by a Father or a prospective husband. The adverb for "decently," is "euschemonos," is used by Paul to state that all should be done decently and in order (taxis) in the Church. 1Cor.14v40. The present tense shows that Christians who have "agape" love always refuse to act in a disorderly and unbecoming manner.

Christians can experience strong workings of the Holy Spirit and be perfectly in order in God's eyes, when men are critical of their response to God's power. Acts.2v13-16. Lk.19v37-40. See also. Heb.5v7. Neh.12v43. 8v6,12. Ps.47v1. 98v4. 126v2. 149v3. 150.v4. Dan.8v18-26. 10v8,11,15,17. Rev.1v7. etc. However, we must realise that what is "seemly conduct" in the secret place of prayer, can be "unseemly conduct" in a Christian meeting, or when the unconverted are present. Paul informs us in 1Cor.14v17-25., that continual and loud speaking in tongues is undesirable even in gatherings which are composed entirely of believers; and is completely wrong when the unconverted and unlearned are present. We should show restraint in speaking in tongues, shaking, laughing, and anything else that causes consternation in people. We have to make some allowance for immaturity in young Christians or young converts, but "unruly" Christians are to be gently but firmly warned and controlled. 1Thes.5v14. 2Tim.4v2. Titus.2v15. However, let us beware of "unseemly discipline," for by being harsh and graceless we can permanently injure people, destroy Christian fellowship, and bring churches into spiritual bondage.

The Holy Spirit is a perfect Gentleman, He will not cause us to get into a frenzy, or act in a way that produces concern, fear, friction, stress and distraction in the saints, and disgust in the outsider. Unfortunately, every revival brings its quota of excess and fanaticism. However, the dangers of a powerless, sub-normal, formal Christianity are far worse. Wise leadership, good teaching, and mature example can lead Christians from "unseemly conduct," into the green pastures of a fruitful manifestation of the gifts of the Holy Spirit.

7. Love seeketh not her own, and does not insist upon her rights. "Ou zetei ta heautes."
Love does not seek its own interests. This follows on from the last quality of love, it is the cure for disorderly conduct and other misuses of the gifts. Love does not think of its own profit or interests. it considers how it may best profit others. The present tense shows us that the permanent guiding principle of a heart of love, is service, not self-seeking. Jn.13 all. Mt.20v20-28. Rom.15v1-6. N.B. v3. 1Cor.10v23,24.

8. Love is not provoked or irritable, it does not fly into a temper.
"Provoked," is "paroxunetai," the present passive of "paroxuno," to sharpen, provoke, or stir up. It only occurs here and Acts.17v16., where it says that Paul's spirit was stirred within him when he saw the city of Athens wholly given to idolatry. There are times when it is a sin not to be angry, but a person who can't control their temper, is no use in the service of God, for they can hurt and injure so many people. Mt.23v1-39. Lk.16v14,15. 1Tim.3v3. 2Tim.2v24,25. Eph.4v15. Gal.13v26. When the Corinthian Christians were misusing their spiritual gifts, Paul gave them sound teaching, not an exhibition of bad temper.

Love never gets angry and forbids spiritual gifts, nor does it call this bad temper and unbelief by the name of righteous indignation. For the noun "paroxusmos," see Acts.15v39., where Paul and Barnabus both failed to manifest "agape" love, and had a most unchristian angry dispute. See also Heb.10v24., where "paroxusmos" is used in a good sense, "And let us thoughtfully consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works." Here Paul uses "katanoomen," the present active subjunctive of "katanoeo," to put the mind down upon, to thoughtfully consider; and he uses the present tense to show that "agape" love always thoughtfully considers how to provoke to love and good works, and is never provoked to fly into a temper.

9. Love thinks no evil, is not mindful of wrongs.
"Logizetai," is the present middle passive indicative of "logizomai," to count, to set down as an account, as in a ledger. Love does not keep an account of wrongs done to it, or scores to be paid back. Love does not have outbursts of anger, or keep that anger burning, by cherishing real or imaginary records of the failures and sins of husbands, wives or fellow Christians. Jesus said a Christian who is dominated with "agape love will love their enemies, even if they do not like them, or their ways; and pray with genuine concern for those that despitefully use them. Mt.5v43-48. Lk.6v26-28. 23v33,34. Acts.8v51-60. Love does not compile or settle accounts with people. It finds no sense of superiority or satisfaction in the faults of others. Those who harbour a bitter unforgiving spirit can expect severe discipline from God. Mt.5v21-26. 18v21-35. Mk.11v25,26.

Injuries should be dealt with immediately and not allowed to fester, Mt.5v23,24. Lk.17v3,4., and where there is repentance there must be whole-hearted forgiveness. If the Church fails to follow the procedure of discipline laid down in Mt.18v15-22., then our Lord personally disciplines His loved ones. 1Cor.11v27-32. It is better to put matters right now, than to have to do it at Christ's judgement throne. Rom.14v10-13. The injured party should be humble and perform positive acts of kindness to the person who has injured them, so that repentance and reconciliation is made easier. Gal.6v1. Rom.12v14-21. 1Cor.1v10. Phil.2v3. Eph.3v8. 1Tim.1v15. Severe judgement awaits those who have compiled cases of "Pentecostal failures," in order to deny Christ's spiritual gifts to His Church. Love longs that they would change these unchristian attitudes and be blessed.

10. Love rejoices not in iniquity, it is not glad when others go wrong.
Love does not rejoice ("ou chairei") over evil, sin and failure; this is the mark of the wicked in Rom.1v32.. Love does not enjoy evil, nor does it find pleasure in finding out the faults of others, or in making them known. 1Jn.2v15-17. There is no triumph in knowing that we were right about another's failings, a heart of love is sorrowful, prayerful, and broken over the fall or faults of another. We are in real trouble with God if we use a revelation of the Holy Spirit to expose and condemn, when God wanted us to use it to convert, help and strengthen a person, and as a directive to pray earnestly for them. See how prayerfully and kindly our Lord dealt with Peter and the woman at the well. Lk.22v31-34. Jn.4v16-18. Love wants to help the fallen, not condemn them. Love never gloats over, or finds satisfaction in, other people's failures.

11. Love rejoices with the truth, it rejoices when the truth prevails.
After describing a succession of things that love will never do, Paul turns again to the positive aspects of love. "Love rejoices in the truth," it not only sides with the truth, it rejoices when truth sanctifies Christians, and is manifested in their lives. Jn.17v17. Truth, as well as love, is here personified and powerfully compared with unrighteousness. 2Thes.2v12. Instead of finding pleasure in compiling and gloating over a person's faults, the loving Christian rejoices in their spiritual victories and attainments, and will do all they can to promote further spiritual well-being. It may be difficult to rejoice in truth when it shows us our deficiencies, but it is essential if we are to make spiritual progress. Jn.8v32. 7v17. 14v21. 2Tim.3v8.

12. Love bears all things, it bears up under everything. "Panta stegei."
"Stegei," is the present active indicative of "stego," to cover, to hold off, to hold out against; it is from "stege," a roof, a flat roof of a house. It means to protect by covering, and has the thought of enduring, sustaining, uplifting and protecting. Love can bear and endure the faults and hatred of others, it delights to sustain and uplift struggling souls; and where it is consistent with Church purity and discipline, it covers with silence and conceals the faults of people. Love secretly mends and prays over the faults of others, no disappointment, abuse, injury or ridicule, can stop the healing ministrations of the loving heart. Peter knew that Christ's "agape" love had "covered his multitude of sins." In 1Pet.4v8., Peter uses "kaluptei," the present active indicative of "kalupto," to throw a veil over, to cover, hide, and conceal. The noun, "kalumma," is used in 2Cor.3v13-16., of a veil. Love bears up, covers and veils, where possible, the sins and failures in the body of Christ.

13. Love believeth all things, it has no limit to its faith and trust. "Panta pisteuei."
Love is not gullible, but it does not give people up as hopeless when the evidence is heavily against them. Prov.14v15. 1Thes.5v12. Even when there are dark signs in a person's life, love gives themselves to believing prayer on their behalf, and trusts God to bring them through. Love also has a perfect trust in the Word, love and provision of God. Phil.1v6. Faith based on love is a present tense reality, and it is an infectious faith that encourages others to trust in God. Heb.3v13.

14. Love hopes all things, it is full of hope in all circumstances. "Panta elpizei."

Hope looks at the character of God as the grounds of its expectation. The victory of hope can be as great as the victory of faith, as can be seen in the case of Abraham, "Who against hope believed in hope." Abraham was strengthened by divine grace, and a spirit of praise and worship. Gen.18v1-15. Rom.4v17-23. No opposition, temptation, or distress can destroy the hope that is ours in Christ Jesus. There is a dead hope as there is a dead faith, and there is a living hope as well as a living faith. James.2v14-26. with 1Pet.1v3. Prov.10v28. 11v7,23. Rom.5v4,25. 15v4,13. Phil.1v19,20. Col.1v5,23,27. Titus.1v2. 2v13. Heb.3v6. 6v11,18,19. 1Pet.1v21. 3v15,16. 1Jn.3v2,3. 1Thes.5v8. When love has little grounds for faith in a person, because of real dark appearances of sin in their life, love never ceases to hope that the person will get back on the right way, and that truth and goodness will triumph. Our hope springs out of faith in the character, love and truth of God, and is a present tense reality.

15. Love endures all things with triumphant fortitude, "Panta hupomenei."

Love endures when it can no longer believe or hope. It endures without limit for the sake of others. The word for "endure," is, "hupomenei," the present indicative active of "hupomeno," which means, "to bear up courageously with triumphant fortitude." The same word is used in Heb.12v2. to describe how the Lord Jesus endured the cross with triumphant endurance. Love does not allow trials to break or mar their spirit; it goes through trials with perfect confidence in God. Love endures all things so that the God of love may manifest His power and love through the lovely gifts that He has given. Indeed, one may have to suffer the most determined vicious persecution from unbelieving worldly and religious people for the sake of Christ's spiritual gifts. Acts.14v19-22. 13v50-62. 1Cor.4v11-13. 2Tim.2v10-13. James.1v12. God's love imparted to us by the Holy Spirit, enables Christians to always face life's problems and evil people with triumphant fortitude. Rom.5v1-5.

3. THE ETERNAL NATURE OF LOVE, AND OUR GIFTS AND KNOWLEDGE. 1Cor.13v8-13.

a. Paul tells us that our temporary gifts and knowledge are a partial experience of Heaven.

The gifts of the Holy Spirit are a temporary and partial use of "the powers of the age to come." Heb.6v5. The gifts of the Spirit do not cease in the sense that there will never again be any miraculous manifestations of the Holy Spirit; it means that the temporary and limited manifestations of the Holy Spirit and partial revelations of God, are swallowed up in the continuous, complete and eternal enjoyment of the supernatural power and divine nature of God. The part is swallowed up in the whole. In the same way our present knowledge will come to nought, or vanish away, in the sense that our limited knowledge will be swallowed up in, and superseded by, the infinite knowledge of the kingdom of God. Our present Scriptures are but a minute fragment of God's unlimited all-knowledge and divine truth; its moral truths will never pass away, but it is only a very small partial revelation of God's eternal plans. The gifts of the Spirit, which are a partial and limited use of "the powers of the age to come," will continue, like our present limited knowledge, until our dear Lord Jesus comes again.

b. God uses spiritual gifts, and our experiences of life, to produce love in us.
God uses life, with all its trials and difficulties, mixed with His grace and gifts, to conform us to the image of Christ and form love in us. Rom.8v14-18,28-39. Our experience of life, and the proper use of our temporary spiritual gifts and partial knowledge produce eternal "agape" love in us, and prepare us for the permanent, unlimited, and eternal manifestations of the knowledge and powers of the heavenly kingdom, so they are vitally important.

c. Our present Christian experience compared with life in God's kingdom of love.

Paul compares a baby with a full grown man.

Paul tells us that our knowledge and most wonderful Christian experiences in this world, when compared with the knowledge and glory of God's heavenly kingdom, are like the first broken and hardly intelligible words and thought of a child, compared with the greater knowledge and speech of a keen and well-informed man. Oh the glory and immensity of God's kingdom! Oh the glory of His presence! Press on struggling Christian to the glorious life that awaits you in heaven.

Paul compares a shadowy image through an obscure mirror with face to face vision.

"Darkly" means literally "an enigma, or riddle," and then, "an obscure intimation." The revelations that we receive are sometimes very trying and puzzling until they come to pass. 1Pet.1v10-12. Even the Scriptures can only give us a limited idea of the glory of God's heavenly kingdom, for no language can describe or convey an experience that is so sublime and glorious. Rev.21 and 22. 2Cor.12v1-4. Compare 2Pet.1v19. with Mal.4v2. 2Cor.4v17. 1Jn.2v27,28.

d. The perfect day and kingdom of love for which God is preparing us. "to telion." v10.
God's aim in Christian service is to produce love in us, as well as to meet people's needs. The quality, not quantity, of our lives and work is the thing that matters in God's eyes. 1Cor.3v11-17. God is trying to get us conformed to the image of Jesus; He is trying to prepare us for living in Heaven, and ruling with Christ. The powers of the age to come demand heavenly love. Rom.8v29. Eph.1v5,6,17-23. 2v6,7. Heb.6v5.

When Christ comes we shall be known perfectly, and know others perfectly.
We shall "fully know as we are fully known." "Fully know," is "epiginosko," which speaks of full knowledge. Our abilities and personality will no longer hide the secret state of our heart. We shall see and know each other as He knows us, nothing will be hidden, everything about us will be made known. For the pure in heart this will be a day of great joy, for others it can be a day of shame. Mal.1v1-3. 1Jn.2v28.

When God's kingdom comes we shall know God perfectly.
We shall see our heavenly Father and Jesus face to face, we shall see how glorious and wonderful They are and experience the most wonderful communion with Them and rejoice in Their plans for us. Even if our works have been "burned up," at His "kind but searching" examination of our lives, we will enjoy His blessing and salvation, and eternal kingdom. 1Cor.3v13-15.

Love faith and hope will abide eternally in the kingdom of God.
There is one thing that is supreme in heaven and earth, a heart that is full of love, and this love with faith and hope will eternally abide. God is love and love is the supreme quality of character, it is love that makes heaven, heaven. In heaven faith and hope will never be disappointed, heaven will be a place of eternal expansion, joy peace and variety, because of universal rule of love and infinite kindness, love and affection of the lovely God of love. Until that perfect day and kingdom come, let us obey the command of God that Paul gave to us, let us pursue and follow after love, and earnestly desire and be full of zeal for the manifestation of the Holy Spirit's lovely gifts in our lives, homes, and churches.. 1Cor.14v1.

5. THE CAUSES OF BREAKDOWN IN MARRIAGE.

1. Many people blame the breakdown of their marriages on the monotony of their marital lives.

Many people today say that they are disappointed with their marriages, and complain that their lives are monotonous and empty, and wrongly feel that happiness will come with a change of partner and new circumstances. It is not long since the average length of life for woman was 32, and 38 for men, these longer lives have produced new areas of temptation for many men and women.

2. The mid- life crisis 40 to 55, is a time when many marriages have broken down.
a. In Mal.2v14-17., God severely warns men who forsake their wives to go after younger, prettier woman.
b. The hormone changes of menopause can sometimes greatly reduce sexual desire, and so cause marital problems.
c. The departure of children can leave a big hole in some people's lives, which they try to fill by unlawful relationships.
d. The mid-life crisis can be a fact with people who have disappointed work and marital ambitions, and because they fail to find happiness and fulfilment in their lives, go after extra marital relationships to try and fill the emptiness of their lives.

3. Domination by fleshly desires and affairs with other people outside of the marriage.
a. The harlot, some of the Corinthian Christians fell to this temptation. 1Cor.6v13-20. The frustrated single or married woman.
b. Some lustful or ambitious males or females make determined efforts to seduce their work-mates or associates.
c. The increased spare time that some people enjoy, leads many of them into temptation and sin like David. People with time on their hands can fall into temptation, Satan usually finds work for idle hands to do. Watch the flesh. Rom.6 and 7.

4. At the opposite end of the scale, there is the too busy husband or wife.

Some people are so busy in their work and social life that they fail to communicate or show affection to their partner. Exhaustion through overwork, and the consequent ill-health, can also cause nerves to be frayed and tempers to be on a short fuse, many marriages have broken up through the friction arising from these causes. Trying to get to the top in the rat race, and career orientated living, can cause friction and marital problems. There can be frustration due to the pressure of management, or from management, and this can cause emotional instability, and bring pressure on the home.

5. Financial and unemployment pressures.

Many marriages are breaking up because bitter men take their frustrations out on their wives, until they can take no more.

6. Difficult partners who make life a misery for their partners often cause marriage break-ups.
a. Job's wife exhorted Job to curse God, because of the great evils that had befallen them. Job.2v9,10.
b. Abigail's husband, the foolish Nabal. 1Sam.25v2-38. Beware of making a similar wrong choice of partner.
c. Samson's choice of wife caused him real problems, and Delilah cost him his eyes and life. Judges.14v1 to 16v31.

7. Sometimes an unbelieving partner is unwilling to live with a Christian. 1Cor.7v15.
Paul and Peter give valuable commands and advice on how Christians should act when they have an unbelieving partner.

a. Paul's advice and commands.
In 1Cor.7v12-16., Paul goes into the problems that can arise when a Christian is married to an unbeliever. Paul directs Christians to stay with their unbelieving partners if it is at all possible, for a Christian partner sanctifies the marriage, and they may save their husband or wife if they act in a kind and loving way. They should not leave, or drive away, their partner.

b. Peter's advice and directions.
In 1Pet.3v1,2., Peter states that Christian wives must be in subjection to their unconverted husbands, and not preach at them, but should win them without a word by the thoughtful way that they live. In 1Pet.3v3-6., Peter stresses the need for a gentle and quiet spirit, he says that outward beauty, like plaiting hair, wearing jewellery, or fine clothes, does not make a woman beautiful, but the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit does, and is in God's eyes, beyond price. The beauty of caring love is to be shown to an unconverted husband. "Meek," is the adjective "praus," which means meek, or gentle. In. Mt.5v5., Jesus said that a gentle humility and patient submissiveness brings true blessedness. Jesus is gentle, "praus," "and lowly, "tapeinos," in heart, and as we accept His invitation to come to Him, we will find rest and recreation, "anapausis," in His lowly-minded gentle love. Mt.11v28-30. Jesus will never be hard with a burdened or broken seeker, He will give us his kind and easy, "chrestos," yoke. In Numb.12v3., God said that Moses was the meekest man on the face of the earth, he was certainly not weak. "Meekness," is the noun "prautes," it signifies not merely outward behaviour, but an inner quality of disposition and a fruit produced in us by the Holy Spirit, it is closely connected with "tapeinophrosune," humility. Eph.4v2. Col.3v12. Zeph.3v12. Meekness is the gentleness of strength under the control of love, we need to manifest this fruit of the Spirit in our marriages.

In Isaiah.53v7., the enormous strength and gentleness of Christ are seen in his silence before his bitter enemies, "He was afflicted yet he opened not his mouth. He is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before his shearers is dumb so He opened not his mouth." We see the flawless strength of the character of Jesus; His gentle kindness controlled His mighty spiritual power. We read in 1Peter.2v23., "Who when he was reviled, reviled not again: when He suffered He threatened not; but committed himself to Him that judgeth righteously." This is true meekness. Let us seek the Lord for grace to help us to imitate Him in our relationships in our homes. Meekness is needed so that we are not provoked by others, a quiet spirit, "estuchios," is needed so that we do not provoke others. This meek and quiet spirit is essential in the husband, as well as the wife, if there is going to be harmony in our marriages, and they are going to be preserved from friction and breaking up. Jesus said that God ordered Moses to institute divorce, "Because of the hardness of your hearts." "Hardheartedness," "sklerocardia," speaks of a heart that is dried up, "skleros," and is hard and tough. Love that manifests itself in a meek and quiet spirit is the divine antidote to this hardness of heart. Mt.19v8. On judgement day Jesus will tell the truth about us, and our marriage relationships, and He will have very strong words to say to cruel and hardhearted partners.

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